Seinfeld says
Seinfeld says
I love that episode of Seinfeld when George can't think of a comeback line for "Hey George - the ocean called and they're all out of shrimp...." It's awesome. I don't know how many of you out there are seinfeld fans or have seen this particular episode... but this is what i love about seinfeld as a writer. his ability to point out the ridiculous things that we obsess about. our ultimate nirvana is the perfect comeback. the weirder the observation - the truer it is... i mean seriously, how many times have you wished you could get back at someone for something he did to you? and spent hours plotting about how to do it... and then you come up with the perfect plan and hope and pray that life gives you a chance to execute it... and that the guy will do exactly what he does in your script and you will reduce him to a simpering mongrel who will lie at your feet and wag his tail by the time you're through...or tuck his tail in and run, depending...
don't be saintly. be honest. i wanna know how many of you out there have felt the way george felt about not having a ready comeback... and then wanted to have your day...
Creative Writing Summer Workshop for Kids by Playwright Shiv
Posted on: 04/19/12
Creative Writing Summer Workshop for Kids by Playwright Shiv
No License Yet
Tel 98201-27247
Email info@nolicenseyet.com
Website http://www.nolicenseyet.com
PRESS RELEASEWednesday - April 18, 2012 For Immediate Release
Contact:
Shivani Tibrewala
+919820127247
No License Yet
Creative Writing Summer Workshops for Kids
by Playwright-Screenwriter Shivani Tibrewala
Mumbai, April 18, 2012 - No License Yet Productions introduces a week-long creative writing workshop for children, taught by playwright and screenwriter Shivani Tibrewala. Following the popular year-long series of theatre workshops designed and conducted by Ms Tibrewala at the National Centre for the Performing Arts, this is a new module designed and conducted by Ms Tibrewala herself. which will focus on writing, reading and comprehension skills for young children.
Children will be introduced to the marvellous works of Dr Seuss, Shel Silverstein, T S Eliot, Edward Lear, Roald Dahl, as well as folk tales, fables and legends from around the world! They will traverse across geographies and cultures on the flying carpet of the imagination and be introduced to unforgettable characters from the Arabian Nights, Byelorussian Folk Tales, and the Panchatantra! They will learn how to create their own characters, build a story to a climax, and about meter, rhyme and rhythm! This workshop will tickle their imagination as well as their funny bone, and encourage them to let their pencils do all the talking!
What's more, by the end of the workshop, each child will have written 3 limericks, 2 poems and an original short story!
The classes will be taught by Ms Shivani Tibrewala herself. Ms Shivani Tibrewala is a published playwright, poet and screenwriter who has written several critically acclaimed plays, films and television serials. Her plays have completed over 300 shows across India as well as abroad. For further details about her work, please log onto http://www.nolicenseyet.com
For ages 8-11
Batch size - 5-8 students
April 30-May 4 (Mon-Fri)
Famous Studio Lane, Mahalakshmi (close to Phoenix Mills)
Timings : 11am-12:30pm OR 3-4:30pm
May 7-11 (Mon-Fri)
Rungta Lane, Nepean Sea Road (close to Priyadarshini Park)
Timings : 11am-12:30pm OR 3-4:30pm
Please call on 98201-27247 for registration and other details.
About No License Yet
No License Yet is a performing arts company based in Mumbai, India, founded in 2002 by writer-director Ms Shivani Tibrewala. The company believes in socially relevant theatre and performance, and art that also beautifies the world that it seeks to entertain. No License Yet's theatrical productions have travelled to 8 cities and over 100 venues all over India. No License Yet's international collaborators include The Theatre Royal Plymouth (UK), The Moving Image Factory (Canada), The Italian Chamber of Commerce, etc. No License Yet also conducts workshops for children on subjects as varied as creative writing, theatre, poetry, culture and mythology, philosophy, leadership and the environment, training them to become socially responsible citizens. No License Yet has created the content for and conducted over 20 different kinds of workshops for various organizations such as the National Centre for Performing Arts, the Rotary Club of Mumbai, IIT Roorkee, Roorkee School for the Deaf, etc. For further details, please log onto http://www.nolicenseyet.com
About Shivani Tibrewala
Ms Shivani Tibrewala is a writer-director based in Mumbai. She has written, directed and produced several plays for the theatre, including Whatever You Say, Helpdesk, Staying Alive, The Laboratory, An Evening with Sita, Surpanakha and Sandra, Raccontini, The Old Man and the Sea: A Sufi fable among others. Her plays have completed over three hundred shows at various venues all over India such as Prithvi Theatre, The National Centre for Performing Arts, the British Council, the Alliance Francaise, the IAS Academy (Mussoorie), India International Centre (Delhi), The Habitat Centre (Delhi), Alliance Francaise (Bangalore), Indian Institute of Technology (Powai),and many others. Besides theatre, she also writes for cinema and television, and has also written for magazines such as Femina, Man's World, One India One People and various other publications. She also initiated and developed the poetry slam scene in Mumbai, and regularly organizes poetry slams at nightclubs, colleges, cafes, etc to provide an impetus to poetry.

The Old Man and the Sea premieres at Kala Ghoda Festival
Posted on: 02/05/12
The Old Man and the Sea premieres at Kala Ghoda Festival

The Old Man and the Sea premieres at Kala Ghoda Festival
Posted on: 01/19/12
The Old Man and the Sea premieres at Kala Ghoda Festival

News from Go Beyond Travels- Zambia and Robin Pope Safaris
Posted on: 12/14/11
News from Go Beyond Travels- Zambia and Robin Pope Safaris
Go Beyond Travels Newsletter Zambia In This Issue OverviewNkwali CampNsefu CampTena Tena CampLuangwa Safari HouseChongwe River HouseRobin's HouseKawaza VillageSeasons.Credits Greetings!Greetings!
This newsletter is to reminder you that we have actively been working with our associates, Robin Pope Safaris, in Zambia and Malawi, to bring to you our exclusive houses and camps.

Robin Pope Safaris, incorporated in 1986, is one of the oldest photographic safari companies operating in Zambia. The operations of the company are all based in the Luangwa Valley, Eastern Zambia, both inside and outside the South Luangwa National Park.
Robin Pope Safaris has developed a fine reputation internationally for quality of safari, the comfort of the camps and for the excellence of guiding and hosting.
Robin has been guiding in the South Luangwa since 1975. For the first 10 years he worked for other safari companies and then started his own company with Tena Tena Camp. Jo joined him in 1988 and they married 4 years later. Since then they have both developed the company considerably and have had a significant input in the development of the tourist industry in Zambia.
All their camps are designed to retain both expected levels of comfort and convenience while emphasizing the wilderness experience. The camps are all simple and elegant. In keeping with their philosophy of keeping the focus on the bush - the rooms all have excellent views and mostly open air bathrooms. The main structures of the camps are open to the bush. Robin Pope Safaris strives to provide a safari that will do far more than simply satisfy the desire to see African game.
As a journalist once said. "Their camps take, at most, a dozen pampered visitors, everyone of whom is treated as a personal house guest and new best friend. The services have set a standard that has become Zambia's benchmark for excellence and their guides are astonishingly knowledgeable naturalists."
Read on for more information. We certainly look forward to hosting you at the Robin Pope Safari Experience.
Shantanu Chand
Go Beyond Travels
The LUANGWA VALLEY, which marks the end of the Great Rift Valley, is one of the last unspoilt wilderness areas and possibly the finest wildlife sanctuary in Africa. It covers an area of over 9000 sq. km. through which the meandering Luangwa River runs. The ox bow lagoons, woodland and plains of the valley host huge concentrations of game - including elephant, buffalo, leopard, lion, giraffe, hippo - and over 400 species of birds.
To explore this wilderness, RPS has a number of camps situated through the Luangwa Valley. All his camps are intimate and highly personalised. Exceptional service has become the hallmark of all the RPS operations. Flexibility and responsiveness to guests' wishes are key. The specialties of these safaris are:
WALKING - the only way to really discover the secrets of the bush. Walks are led by an experienced naturalist and accompanied by an armed game scout.
GAME VIEWING DRIVES - conducted in open, four-wheel drive vehicles by knowledgeable safari guides. Special game viewing seats provide excellent viewing and opportunities for photography. Only 2 guests per row so everyone has a "window seat".NIGHT DRIVES - set out in the afternoon. Later, after watching the sun set over the river with a sun downer in hand, the drive continues with a powerful spotlight. The nocturnal world of the bush is witnessed from owls and genets to hunting lions and the graceful leopard.
GUIDES - are key to a successful safari. Not only are the guests looking for knowledgeable naturalists with enthusiasm for the bush but also for people that will give them a really enjoyable time. The guides at RPS are well trained guides and are confident, fun hosts.
Nkwali is located on Robin's private land, overlooking the National Park. The area surrounding Nkwali is superb game viewing country, with a beautiful area of ebony woodland and open grasslands. We have put driving loops in this area and often see as much behind camp as in the park - including leopard, lion and occasionally wild dog. This area is particularly good for elephants and Thornicroft giraffe (an endemic species) Elephants also regularly cross the Luangwa, seen from the bar, or come to the waterhole near the thatched dining room.The chalets are large, cool and spacious, with a great view of the river. The front of the room is open during the day and then closed by a grill doors at night. The ensuite bathroom has double sinks and showers, which are open to the skies during the dry season. The bar area, right on the edge of the Luangwa banks, is built around a huge ebony tree with fantastic views of the river and across to the park. The open deck is wonderful for moonlit dinners. The dining room is a simple thatched structure, by the lagoon but we rarely eat meals there - they are served under the trees by the lagoon or the river, on the deck, or in the bush!
Although the camp is outside the national park we access the park by either by boat (2 minutes) or our nearby pontoon (10 minutes). And of course the main bridge is only 15 minutes away - giving us 3 options for entry. We therefore easily cover a large game viewing area from Nkwali. This central area of the park is accessible all year and so the game is very relaxed and used to the vehicles. This gives great photographic opportunities as the game allows the vehicles to get close.Nkwali is open all year and the seasons are basically divided into the "dry season" (mid May - October) and the "" (November - mid May). This is a broad brush approach and every month produces a special natural happening - here are monthly details on the and what each season brings.

- 12 guests
- Woven bamboo walls with plastering on the inside and thatch roof chalets
- Family room - sleeps 4 in 2 bedrooms (both ensuite)
- Honeymoon suite with separate sitting room
- Minimum age 7 years
- Ensuite semi open air bathrooms with flush loo, doubles with double shower and basins
- Open year round (boating in the Emerald Season with 2 ali swamp boats)
- Walking, drives, night drives, visit to Kawaza Village and school, Tribal Textiles
- Swimming pool
- Transfer time from Mfuwe Airport 40 mins
- On mains 220v- battery charging possible, 3 pin square plugs - adaptors available
- Credit card - visa only accepted - 5% handling fee (small shop for souvenirs)
- Fully inclusive (imported wines and spirits included)

- 12 guests
- Traditional rondavels
- Ensuite semi-open air bathrooms
- Minimum age 12 years
- Open late May to end Oct
- Walking, drives, night drives, visit to Kawaza Village and school
- Transfer time from Mfuwe Airport 1hr 30 mins mostly game driving
- Generator 220v - battery charging possible, 3 pin square plugs - adaptors available
- No credit card facilities - small shop box for souvenirs - cash or travellers cheques
- Fully inclusive (imported wines and spirits included)
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TENA TENA CAMP ... is altogether beyond superlatives, and must be one of the best safari camps in the whole of Africa", The Times, London. This remote and small camp lies within the Nsefu Sector of the National Park and enjoys a stunning location on a wide bend of the Luangwa River. A grove of mahogany trees shade the large custom-made tents and open air bathrooms. From the dining room and large tented bar, guests can watch the elephants, hippo and antelope on the river banks. Nearby there is a spectacular lagoon, Buca Buca, where a whole morning can be spent quietly sitting while the game comes down to feed and drink. Being remote and so small, we have these scenes to ourselves.- 10 guests
- Tented under thatch
- Honeymoon suite with twin basins and showers - separate sitting and private dining area
- Ensuite open air bathrooms
- Minimum age 12 years
- Open late May to end Oct
- Walking, drives, night drives, visit to Kawaza Village and school
- Transfer time from Mfuwe Airport 1hr 15 mins partly game driving
- Generator 220v - battery charging possible, 3 pin square plugs - adaptors available
- No credit card facilities - small shop box for souvenirs - cash or travellers cheques
- Fully inclusive (imported wines and spirits included)
This stunning private house is situated on Nkwali land, approximately one km from camp. Built on the edge of a seasonal lagoon and with a backdrop of the Chindeni Hills the game, including herds of elephants and journeys of giraffe, use this area to feed and water throughout the day. The house is castlesque as you enter the vast pivot door into the main room. The view from here is stunning with one side of the room completely open to the bush. There are four bedrooms, two downstairs and two upstairs. They are large, stylish and individual - each with different metals, colours and marble used. The meals are served on a marble table in the house or out on the deck, accessed by a raised walk way, overlooking the waterhole. The plunge pool also looks out over the lagoon.
- Private safaris - walking, drives, night drives, visit to Kawaza Village and school, Tribal Textiles
- Transfer time from Mfuwe Airport 40 mins
- On mains 220v - battery charging possible, 3 pin square plug
Reminder: Shivani Tibrewala Chand invited you to join Facebo
Posted on: 10/12/11
Reminder: Shivani Tibrewala Chand invited you to join Facebo
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Posted on: 10/11/11
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Posted on: 08/23/11
No License Yet - Talent Hunt!


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Dr E Moses Road, Mumbai 400011 (5 min from Mahalaxmi Station)
Dear Friends,
As No License Yet enters its tenth year of existence, we have some exciting new developments in store for you.
No License Yet is currently in the process of building its own Repertory company. The Repertory Company will produce and travel with a minimum of 2 new plays every year. In addition, the Repertory Company will produce and conduct workshops for children and adults, poetry slams, and various other events throughout the year. All members of the Repertory Company will be instrumental in organizing and conducting these events.
We would be delighted to share with you our vision and plans for the future at our information session this coming Saturday. Pre-registration is required for the information session since space is limited to 8 for each session.
If you would like to attend the session, please email info@nolicenseyet.com with "info session" in the subject line, your contact numbers, and your curriculum vitae / a cover letter telling us a little more about yourself, and your reasons for wanting to be part of NLY Repertory Co. (please see details below)
We look forward to seeing you!
Warmly,
Shivani Tibrewala
Artistic Director
No License Yet
About The No License Yet Repertory Co.
The Repertory Company will consist of a core team of 6 actors,
each of whom will also take the lead in one of the following departments :
1) Business Development - Theatre
2) Business Development - Poetry Slams and Workshops
3) Marketing and PR - Website, Newsletters, Public Relations, Publicity
4) Production Design - Light, Sound, Stage, Music, Choreography
5) Stage Management - Technical - Light, Sound and Stage
6) Stage Management - Properties, Wardrobe and Scheduling
We are looking for passionate and talented young actors between 21-30 years of age.
Prior theatre experience necessary.
Actors with prior experience in one of the six departments listed above will be given preference.
We are open to applications from professionals from other disciplines, provided they have prior theatre experience / prior experience in 1 of the above departments, and can commit their time.
Time commitment : Average 20 hours per week (hours flexible)
Contract : 1 year (renewable)

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Posted on: 08/23/11
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Posted on: 06/02/11
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LOve u Laterrrr
LOve u Laterrrr
Love you later
Love. Everybody is talking about it these days, everybody is in it, and then sadly everyone is out of it - a tad too soon. Why doesn't love last like it used to? Where has all the love gone?
It's too easy to say this generation has lost its values. That we don't know how to love. That we are too selfish. Passing judgment has never been difficult. But actually understanding a phenomenon takes a lot more effort. I've been trying to figure out - over the last few months - why it is that I am increasingly surrounded by single women - and men.
My girl friends range from 25 to 35 years old on average, are beautiful, intelligent, warm, passionate, sensitive, funny, independent and successful in their careers.
My guy friends range from 25 to 35 years old on average, are beautiful, intelligent, warm, passionate, sensitive, funny, independent and successful in their careers.
But.
Yeah, strange. Where did that come from? Why does there have to be a but? It sounds perfect. But there's always a but.
Bottomline: it's not the qualities that are mismatched. It's the needs. And what either sex is willing to be - or provide.
What follows is a speculative analysis - somewhat generalized - but largely true... arrived at after talking to a cross-section of my male and female friends...
The women want men who think they are beautiful (some things never change), who have depth (but also humor), who will be interested in their careers (but not interfere), will be there for them emotionally (without crowding them of course), who will give them space to grow (But be right there all the while), who won't lie (but know the difference between honesty and meanness), who won't cheat on them (but won't go hysterical if they talk to other men), who will be nice to their girlfriends (But not too nice!), who will be respectful to parents (but please no mama's boys), who will be sensitive and passionate in bed (but not aggressive), who are poets, warriors, doctors and farmers all at the same time, and who will mow the lawn (luckily few couples can afford one, and the ones who can can also afford a gardener. But it's a symbolic thing...).
The men want women who are super-hot, who will be wildcats in bed (the more aggressive the better), who won't cheat on them (in spite of having several men lusting after them), who will not expect them to be interested in their careers but who will be understanding of their demanding careers (or non-careers - if they are at the still-struggling stage), who won't go around obsessing about their independence, who do not get overly emotional at the drop of a hat, but who are very emotionally tuned in at all times to what the man wants (and who give it without a fight), who say what they want up front (but only want stuff that their men are able to give them), who will give them space to watch the world cup/ hang out with the boys/pass comments on other attractive women without getting ballistic/meet other women/cheat (the last three depending entirely on levels of boldness & having little or nothing to do with morality). And who won't expect marriage to be the natural culmination of things. What lawn?
It doesn't sound that different from the men are from mars women are from venus stuff. Except that there is one key difference. Nobody is willing to compromise anymore. Nobody wants to give in. Earlier the women usually gave in. because they had to. Not because they were better women. Because they were financially dependent on their men. As women discover economic independence, they also discover other qualities in themselves - like pride, dignity, a refusal to conform to society's - or male society's - notions of what goes. And so for the first time, women are speaking up. And saying ‘no thanks' instead of ‘okay, whatever you say'. Now naturally, the men are a bit startled - because it's really the women who are changing - they are pretty much where they were, in terms of their movement as a specie. So they don't get this sudden transformation. What happened? How come I'm suddenly the villain? It's an understandable predicament that the men find themselves in, because they grew up with their mothers - and now suddenly, these women. Who are just not like any women they have ever known. Who are not interested in simply playing ‘nurturer'. Or being mothers, even, sometimes. Who just want a job, like them, who want recognition, like them, who make money, sometimes more than them, and yet - they are women, not men. So what is this new breed of women all about?
The other thing is of course that the women have also had a sexual liberation. We're going through what America went through way back when. So now all the men are going crazy because for the first time, they can ask a woman to go to bed with them without having to marry her first. Or at least without her expecting it. The women, too, are equally excited with the idea of premarital sex. The problem is that just like the men grew up with their mothers, the women grew up with their fathers. So they grew up with these caring, patronizing men who looked after the family and were - at least overtly - loyal to their mothers. Who married one woman and stayed with her throughout their lives. So even though they welcome the idea of being independent and liberated, they also want secretly somewhere that undying, mystic, eternal love - and not just a bedroom affair. So for the women, there is an internal struggle between being modern and old-fashioned, between being sexually liberated and being seen as a ‘good girl', between having fun and doing the ‘right thing', between being accepted and acceptable, between being envied and being respectable. So the poor men are constantly bombarded with these mixed signals, which they completely fail to fathom.
Meanwhile, the men are trying to make the best of what they are getting. So they act out their desires and try to keep the women happy. Thing is, the women themselves don't know right now what would really make them happy. So it's pretty much impossible for the men to figure it out. So they go through this trial and error thing for a while, practise on a couple of women, realize it's pointless, impossible, and finally give up. And then they turn into what women call ‘self-obsessed jerks'.
What happens to the women is that they realize that men just don't get it, they get frustrated, they start bonding with their female friends, they talk about how men just don't get it, they all sympathize with each other about how men are jerks, and the best strategy is use-abuse-discard. And therein are born the next category of women - the ‘cold heartless bitches'. Problem is when these women meet men who have still not become ‘self-obsessed jerks', and when the ‘self-obsessed jerks' meet women who have still not become ‘cold heartless bitches' - they don't know how to handle it. They have become so attuned to the new breed that this catches them off-guard, and they run away, suspicious, doubtful, unwilling to trust again. And so even though both women and men keep waiting to meet that special someone, they want them on their terms and their terms only. Instead of being something that can lift you up, love becomes something that is measured, sized up, evaluated, judged, tested, put through the test of fire. And therein lies the death of love.
Oh god when did I get to be this boring? All I think about is love. I'm sounding like a Beatle. I should write about something political and important. I should be writing about the importance of organic farming, about the rising prices of milk, about the elections, about corruption, about untrained, unscrupulous contractors being entrusted with building our homes, about children getting hooked to drugs at even earlier ages than they used to, about the lack of infrastructure, about the floods, about tsunamis, about global warming, about bomb blasts, about our government, about our country's problems, about the youth's indifference to our country's problems.
Thing is, I'm part of that youth. And yes, I am obsessed with love. With the need to love and be loved. And I'm not ashamed to admit it. Yes there are other preoccupations. Yes perhaps love is a luxury that one can wallow in only when one has everything else. But that is precisely the point. When you have everything else, and it's still not enough - you realize that love is the thing that makes it all worthwhile. Without love, it's really quite pointless to have it all.
Sounds naïve, dumb and idealistic? Ok, go ahead, run away from it. It's true, even you know it's true, but you're too much of a coward to admit that you want love just as much as anybody. That it's the thing you most want in your life. A rock-solid, overpowering, beautiful and perfect love. That will help you fly, that will make you cherish what you have, and that will make you forget what you do not - because nothing else matters once you have that kind of love in your life.
The previous generation has often faulted ours for being flippant, for not taking life seriously enough. Yet statistics show that India is at an all-time economic high. The nation is doing better than it ever has. And 50% of the population fall into the category of youth. So we obviously have it all. And yet suicide rates are also at an all-time high. And the segment at greatest risk is the youth. So what does this portend? If we really have it all, why are we so depressed? What is it that is missing?
A sense of fulfilment. The realization that money isn't everything. While the previous generation had drilled into our heads that it was upto us to make a life for ourselves, and that was our sole motive in our college-and-just-out-of-college years, we realized somewhere along the way that it wasn't enough. That something was lacking. that success wasn't much fun unless there was someone to share it with, to cheer us on. That family is wonderful, but that they can't really relate to the people we have become after following the paths that we have. That they love us anyway, but they don't really understand us.
That they don't prevent us from doing what we want, but they don't exactly always approve either. That support is sometimes given grudgingly. And while we realized all this, we kept shoving it to the back of our minds, saying ‘i'll think about it later'.
Well, later arrives sooner or - later. And when it does, it brings a whole host of questions. Like is this what my life is all about? What is the meaning of life, finally? Who am I going to share my life with? Will I end up alone?
Because what has happened is that as India experiences her economic boom, the generation that is helping bring it all about is increasingly finding itself more and more isolated, more and more alone, more and more incapable of building relationships in a world driven by the very technology that this very generation has created. The technology built to aid communication has ended up hampering communication, creating more and more channels and leaving less and less time to say anything worthwhile. The frenzied pace of communication has cheapened its value, and efficiency has replaced depth. The lack of time spent in reflection before speaking leads to callous exchanges, unnecessary conversations, and over-exposure to each other. The romance of distance and time apart has been replaced with the convenience of being always in touch. Space has become a fashionable word, instead of a once-necessity that deepened love.
We have become afraid to love. We are afraid to let ourselves go, to give up that space that we have fought so hard to make our own. We are afraid of being fooled into giving everything without getting anything in return, we are afraid of losing our pride, our dignity, our self-respect. We are afraid of being humbled, being humiliated, being rejected, being forgotten, being tossed aside. We are afraid of being outgrown. We are afraid of being wrong, of being told that we are wrong, of admitting when we are wrong - because it has become so critical to be right all the time. Because everything is being constantly assessed - because we are constantly under surveillance. They say these are competitive times. If you thought getting a job is tough, think again. Getting love has never been this difficult. There are so many out there vying for that position, it is not even funny. Do you measure up? Do you have all the necessary qualifications? All the necessary qualities? All the necessary capacities to give and to take?
We are afraid of being miserable. Of pain. Of waiting. Of being left behind. Of being the one who loves more deeply. Of being loved whole-heartedly - because of the guilt it brings when our own love is not deep enough. Of being cheated. Of commitment to any one love or any one person - because maybe there's something better in store? Of spending this lifetime with the wrong person. Of losing time. Of losing youth. Of losing love.
You see, we figure -- At least if we don't have love in the first place, we have nothing to lose.
Thoughts are the dandruff of the soul
Thoughts are the dandruff of the soul
Thoughts are the dandruff of your soul. They are the stuff that flakes off when your soul is dry and itching, when it has not been well oiled with spirituality and inner healing. They are a sure sign that your soul has run dry, that you need to deeply condition yourself, that you need to give yourself some tender loving care, that you need to stay put for a while and just look after yourself. You need to meditate - it's your anti-dandruff shampoo. Close your eyes, breathe, and listen to your inhalation-exhalation process. Feel your breath, nothing more. It's a technique as old as the Himalayas... maybe older even. Your breath is what binds you to the universe. It is your only connection -- it is the most intrinsic way of belonging to the world, and having the world belong to you. Just breathe, and your soul will be cleansed -- it's a promise.
when your heart is hammering....
when your heart is hammering....
my heart fell out of my chest and i knew suddenly what heartache meant. it is not an abstract concept. it is a very real pain when your chest constricts and your heart is beating at lightning speed and you can't breathe...when you want it all to end, and you don't know how to end it... when the anguish of being alive is too intense and there are no silver linings visible at close quarters... and you just hope and pray that when you die, people will miss you and regret all the things they did wrong and that you will be remembered forever after as a saint and an angel... that all the pain you have endured will wash your soul clean and that you will be forever cherished in heaven for bearing your crosses with a guiltless conscience and compassion for the undeserving and yet the already forgiven...
and then i forgave... and my heart stopped beating... and i realized with humility that i had nothing to forgive. for i am one of the ones needing forgiveness... for it was anger that had made me anxious... and in anxiety there is no innocence.
calm like the rainbow after the storm, i stared out at the world once again... and was finally able to smile.
family
family
Love your family. Through their tantrums and idiosyncrasies and dysfunctional behaviour and depression. Through all the worst times when you almost forget what it is you love about them. when you think it's their fault that your life didn't turn out the way it did. when you can't.
because there will be a day when you will know they are the ones who loved you the most.
what's more - you will want to love them more than you can, and will wish you had loved them like that from the early days...
don't apologize for the mistakes. it's a waste of time. set them right instead. start loving.
your mother, your grandmother, your husband, your wife, your kids, your ex-wife, your uncles and aunts, your godmother...
they are the best friends you can hope to have, because they were given to you. they were given to you to teach you something.
learn it well, so you don't have to learn it again a second time.
My way or your way?
My way or your way?
There are two ways to live a life. Either you live it the way you want to, or else you live it the way others want you to.If you live it the way you want to, there are two things that could result - either you will make yourself happy and others happy, or you will make yourself happy and others sad.
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Thought of the day
Thought of the day
"The longest road I ever walked was the one away from you
To be great is not a bad fate, but to be good is overdue
So off I am to plant the trees I should have planted long ago
And when one day their fruit you taste it is then that you will know
That I am sorry for the pain I caused on the path I did then choose
And that I would now grant with joy the favors I refused
I did not know how to be a soul I was busy being a child
In a world that has confused the innocent and the wild...






















